What is it about boys and schoolwork?
Lately, I feel like I have to do some serious stealth work to find out if A. my boys have homework and B. they are doing it.
Here’s a conversation I’ve had in my house several times recently.
“Hey Adam, do you have much homework tonight?”
“No, not too much.”
“Um. A quiz in bio.”
“Maybe a test in health.”
“No. I don’t think so.”
“Um, yea, we have something in Spanish.”
“What about history.”
“Oh yea what?”
“We have some history.”
Last night, my husband was lying in bed at 10:15 p.m. helping Adam study for biology. When they were done, and Adam started to walk out of the room, I asked, “Don’t you have a health test?”
“Oh yea,” he said.
What would have happened if I hadn’t reminded him?
Jonah, my 9-year-old, is only slightly better. The other day I came home and he and a friend were watching TV.
“What about your homework?” I said.
“I’m done,” he answered.
“What about your science test?” I said.
“I was going to study later,” he said.
Yea, not so much.
The girls, on the other hand, come home and head straight to their room to do homework. I never have to quiz them about what they have or worry that they aren’t doing it. If a lower than expected grade comes in, I know it’s not because they didn’t study. They get it. You study, you get decent grades. They know that if you pretend you don’t have homework, it won’t go away.
I’m not sure why this common sense eludes the boys in the house. We are hoping that soon, Adam will catch on that when he doesn’t study, he doesn’t pass. Friends tell me he will figure it out. That it will come together soon. They say I should give him space, but I’m struggling with that.
I can’t stand by and watch him sink without offering him a hand.
FranklyStein is a blog by Chesapeake Family Magazine editor Betsy Stein who lives in Catonsville with her husband, Chris, and four children, Maggie, 15, Lilly, 14, Adam, 14, and Jonah, 9.