New evidence that holding is good for the baby — Good Parenting

 

ThinkstockPhotos 854481234Dear Dr. Debbie,

We are in the holiday season which means lots of visits with relatives. Although we are on our third baby, I am bracing myself for the onslaught of unsolicited advice from, usually older, family members about how much I am holding our four-month-old son.

Anything new in the field to back up our position that babies do best when they’re held a lot?

Arms Full and Loving It

Keeping emotions under control — Good Parenting

 

ThinkstockPhotos 881518818Dear Dr. Debbie,

My complaint is more about my husband than our three-year-old. Ever since she came along, he reacts to her strong emotions with strong emotions of his own. Lately he gets angry with her and wants her to stop her noise. How can I help him to stay calm when she’s upset? It’s clear to me that his pained face and the things he says only make things worse.

Keeping it in Control

 

The benefit of speaking a foreign language at home — Good Parenting

Dear Dr. Debbie,

My 3-year-old daughter will be starting preschool in the fall. My first language is French, so although my husband is from the U.S., French has been our primary language at home. Some neighbors are saying we should switch to English so she will better understand her teachers and classmates. Isn't it true that keeping a firm foundation in French as our at-home language would better help her in the long run? Also, her younger brother deserves that same chance to have French around him at home in these early years, and we're already contemplating a third child.

Une mère française

Homework hassles with a 9-year-old — Good Parenting

Homework angerDear Dr. Debbie,

I know I can’t be the only parent who has issues every single night with their 9-year-old over homework. I realize it does no good to be yelling at him to stop crying about it. Some days he has an after-school activity, then has some free time, then opens his back pack (as I’m starting to prepare dinner) to see that he has four pages (two front/back) of homework.

He can't go straight from sitting at school to sitting for homework. He needs time for energy release. But it takes him an hour or more to do homework, and we haven’t been able to find that golden hour. If we did it immediately after school, he’d resist and struggle more, taking away time that he might get to play outside before it gets dark. When I’m making dinner is not the best time for me to be available if he gets stuck. And after dinner, we’re all pretty exhausted.

Can’t School Be Done at School?

Improving friendliness — Good Parenting

 

ThinkstockPhotos 482428178Dear Dr. Debbie,

My nine-year-old daughter does not have many friends. We have lived in the same house since she was a year old and she has had Girl Scouts and other activities with other children from her school but only if I push it, does she want to invite anyone to come over or to go somewhere with us. She likes to take charge, doesn’t easily share, and despite being able to have other children do as she says, she often seems unhappy when she’s around them. She’s not a behavior problem in the sense that she generally complies with adults and does fine with school. By the way, she has two younger brothers and mostly ignores them.

Can we help her to be more friendly or is this just the way she is always going to be?

She May Be Fine, But I’m Not

 

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