Starting high school is never easy — especially when you’ve come from a tiny school that you’ve attended your whole life.
So I’ve been holding my breath these first few weeks to see how my twins fare as freshmen. I am hopeful that they do well and find a great group of lasting friends. It’s weighing on my heart a little.
My older daughter, Maggie, took her time finding her fit last year as a freshman. She flitted around from one lunch table to another, looking for a group of girls that she felt comfortable with. I worried about her, but she seemed fine. She said she liked being able to sit at different tables after sitting with the same people for nine years at her private elementary/middle school.
Last spring she finally settled in with a group of girls that she seemed to like. I met the girls for the first time this past weekend, when they all came over to get ready for a mixer at school. They seemed like a really sweet group of girls, but I found out they were a little extra special. When Adam came home from school a bit dejected because he didn’t have friends to go to the mixer with (he goes to the “brother” boys school), Maggie’s friends immediately adopted him and insisted he go with them. At first he was unsure, but they made it impossible for him to say no. They even included him in their group pictures.
They all had a great time at the mixer. Once my son was there, he found friends to hang out with and met plenty of girls. Lilly seemed to have fun with the girls she went with, and Maggie had fun with her friends.
So we’ve made it through the first couple of weeks of high school and the first social function. And things seem to be going ok so far. The twins seem to have people to sit with at lunch, are making friends in their classes, are doing well in their sports and are handling the schoolwork. But I think I’ll be holding my breath for a while yet. That’s just what mothers do.
FranklyStein is a blog by Chesapeake Family Magazine editor Betsy Stein who lives in Catonsville with her husband, Chris, and four children, Maggie, 15, Lilly, 13, Adam, 13, and Jonah, 9.