The other day I was watching television and Tyra Banks and her mother were on a show talking about the period party her mother threw for her. I never heard of such. I can’t say my children would have ever agreed to such an event.
It’s such a private time for girls. Paige was okay with it when the time came around. Grace was mortified. Both wanted no one to know. They pleaded with me not to tell anyone—especially their father. I too pleaded with my mom not to tell my dad. But she did. He seemed to look at me differently after that. He never said anything to me, but I knew he knew and he knew I knew he knew. Awkward. Next thing I know when my aunts called the house and I answered the phone the first thing they said to me was, “ Oh I hear you are a woman now.” I was not happy that my mother told everyone on earth that I had my period.
So what did I do? I told their father. He’s their father. He should know. I probably told my girlfriends and broke my word. But there’s is no way in the world I would throw a period party. I’ve read discussions about this on-line. Those who are doing it say it’s a chance to celebrate this new chapter of their daughters’ lives. They invite close friends and ladies in the family. They serve Red velvet cake and have red decorations. They fill baskets with all kinds of tampons, pads, panty liners and more. That’s the only practical thing I can say about it all. At least you bring out all of the tools made for a woman to use during her time of the month so they can try them all out and see what is a good fit.
I guess you talk about what to do in an emergency when the period comes on and you are not prepared. Play pin the tampon on the fireplace. Why not fill a piñata with pads and tampons and bust it open. Share tales of what it was like trying to use a tampon for the very first time. Serve Bloody Mary drinks for the adults. Serve strawberries, beet salad, and spaghetti. A period party? Maybe it’s just me but a party is the last thing many young women want when they get their period. I know the idea is to make our girls not feel ashamed about it all. But really a period is no reason to party. That’s all I have to say about that.
Lisa Robinson is the mother of two amazing young women. She is a freelance writer for several Baltimore area magazines, including Chesapeake Family Life. Lisa works as a news anchor and investigative reporter for WBAL-TV in Baltimore. When she’s not dealing with the drama of her two daughters, she’s busy cooking, working out, hosting her friends for get-to-getters, reading, and writing a non-fiction book. Lisa is one of the funniest people you’ll get to know. She relishes in saying the things others are afraid to. You can catch up with Lisa here and on Facebook and Twitter.