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The Holidays Are Hard – One More Thing

The other night I was writing out Christmas cards in the living room and my fourteen year old turned to me and said, “Wow. Christmas is a lot of work.” I laughed and laughed. Oh sweet innocent baby child, this is barely a drop in the pool of insanity that is the holiday season.

As a kid, December was my favorite month of the year. It always felt like magic. The lights. The anticipation. The countdown. My mom would make cookies as gifts for everyone that we knew so every counter in our kitchen was covered in chocolate and powdered sugar like the best scene from Willy Wonka. Pure magic. And the way Christmas morning felt, there was just nothing that could even be close to touching that. 

As an adult, there is still magic but now it is just served on a limited budget with the heavy side dishes of stress and responsibility. There are 72 parties to go to, 109 people to buy gifts for, 1000 cards to send and there’s an elf to be moved every single night, traditions to fulfill that you almost forgot that you started, delays on Amazon, people to host, ugly sweaters to find, school concerts to attend, houses and trees to decorate, your try to channel your non-existent Martha Stewart, you fight 400 raging shoppers for a parking spot, go to weekend sporting events that range from 7 a.m. to 7 p.m., write endless to do lists, bake cookies, wrap everything, and oh you still have to work and adult and parent and pay bills and don’t forget to smile. 

It is all just too much. 

The never enough of it all. The comparison of it all. The not enough time or money or sanity of it all. And then there is the feeling factor. I cry on average about 18 times every December over things like the tape dispenser not working that has nothing to do with the tape dispenser not working. I have a few people in my life that are experiencing the first redefined holiday after a divorce or separation or the death of someone that they deeply love. It is so hard. It feels so much. Loss is magnified under the spotlight of a major holiday. The grief feels heavier. It is a sadness that you contain in your bones that aches just all the more when you remember what is missing. But you still have to show up because you have younger eyes looking up at you, unsuspecting of all that you do to make that magic happen. You are in the middle space of holding onto the hard while carrying out the joy. 

So let’s make a pact. Let’s let go of the guilt and the expectations. Let’s say yes to only the things that we really want to be a part of. Let’s say no to anything that doesn’t bring us or our children joy. Let’s simplify everything that we possibly can. Put that extra gift down that they really don’t even need. Bake only if you want to, kids are just as happy decorating store made cookie dough as they are homemade. Just because we are the carriers of the to do lists, doesn’t mean that we can’t have fun on there too. Take care of yourself; your kids want and need a happy, sane parent. Keep breathing. You’ve got this. Somehow all that is the most important will always get done. It doesn’t matter how many gifts are under the tree. It doesn’t matter what food is served at the table. All that matters is who is in the chairs. 

And that feeling of nothing else comparing to the way Christmas morning feels, I promise you, that will always prevail over everything else. So soak it in. You deserve it. 

Happy happy holidays to you and here’s to an amazing year to come.

Katie has a new book out that is a collection of quotes and mic drops to embrace your inner warrior. “Girl Power” is available now on Amazon and is the perfect gift for all the warriors in your world. You can find out more details and book signing info on her instagram @katieyackleymoore. Endless thanks for reading. Xo

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MooreFam SKatie Yackley Moore is a freelance writer, real estate agent, yoga instructor and a momma of four navigating life and a separation and finding herself in the process. She adores coffee shops, laughing until it hurts and impromptu dance parties. Her work has appeared on Scary Mommy, Mamalode and HuffPost Parents. She has published a journal entitled “Dream a Bigger Dream” and the children’s books “You Are a Warrior” and “We are Family” and just finished her first novel. Catch up with her between tea breaks at The Naked Momma and on Facebook.

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