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The many friends kids bring into your life — FranklyStein

It’s amazing how many friends you make when you have kids and how you keep on making them as your kids get older.

I can’t count how many friends I’ve made over the years thanks to my kids. When Maggie was a newborn, I ran into an acquaintance at the mall and when we realized our babies were the same age, a friendship started that might not otherwise have ever been. We were both stay-at-home moms so we spent a lot of time together in those early days — on playgrounds, in classes and at each other’s houses. To this day we catch up whenever we can.

I met another mom at a playgroup at church who ended up having kids right around my kids’ ages. Over the years, our friendship has grown as our kids’ paths have intersected. We see each other at the pool in the summer and on the sidelines of various sporting events in the spring and fall.

Then there are our neighbors. Without kids, I doubt we would have the neighborhood friendships that we have. When the kids were little and played together, the adults ended up playing together too. We had happy hours, barbeques and chili dinners. We went for walks and had neighborhood kickball games. Now that the kids are older, we don’t see each other as often, but we know our neighborhood friends are there — a few doors down and across the street — watching out for our kids. And every now and then, we get the chance to chat over snow shovels, or at the bus stop or over a quick cup of coffee. My neighbors are special friends because they care about my kids and look out for them. They always have and hopefully they always will.

I’ve made other mom friends over the years coaching my kids in lacrosse and field hockey and cheering from the sidelines at soccer games and swim meets. The moms of my kids’ friends often end up becoming my friends simply because that’s how it works. Those are the moms I see the most, the ones who are where I am. They often know personally what my life is like because, on some level, it’s their life too. We talk about school and sports and the pressure our kids are under. We talk about our crazy lives and the fact that one day very soon, the craziness, and the kids, will be gone.

There are other friends that I’ve had even before I had kids. These friends I hold tightly to even though my kids’ lives sometimes pull me away from them. Our paths don’t cross as spontaneously as they once did, so it takes more effort to stay in touch. But it doesn’t matter because friends who have kids understand.

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2013 EasterWFranklyStein is a blog by Chesapeake Family Magazine editor Betsy Stein who lives in Catonsville with her husband, Chris, and four children, Maggie, 14, Lilly, 13, Adam, 13, and Jonah, 9.


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