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To the Ones Who Show Up—One Moore Thing

I have cried more times than I have wanted to this week. Not because I have been sad but because when life gets hard, the real deal pieces and shards are on the floor and you have no choice but to rise type of hard, my people have risen to the challenge. To feel that type of love, the real deal I have you and your kids in this life and I’ll bring the dustpan, you don’t have to ask us twice type of love, you know that you are so lucky. The tears release before you have any say in the matter. 

When my kids were tiny, the comment that I heard most often was “Wow, your hands are full.” And they were. Taking care of four babies four and under was physically exhausting. But beautiful. And now it has evolved. Now my hours and weeks and car trips and house and mind are overflowing. Now the comment that I most get is, “I don’t know how you do it.” It is exhausting. But beautiful. 

I look at other women and wonder the same thing. How does that single mother of five make ends meet? How does that CEO that has to constantly travel do it? How does that momma of a baby with colic do it? One of my favorite mic drops about motherhood is, “We expect women to work like they don’t have children and to raise children as if they don’t work.” 

I think the thing that sometimes holds us back is comparing ourselves to the other women that appear to have perfect lives on our social media feeds. I recently read a book by a mom of four that is a public figure, looks flawless on Instagram and is constantly on a stage giving motivational speeches and I appreciated her honesty. She was very open that she does it with a whole lot of help. She has a super supportive partner, a full-time nanny, a full-time housekeeper and an assistant. SHE HAS A FULL STAFF. I have approximately none of that. We are not in the same place in life. And almost all of the women in my world are not in that place- they are juggling and treading and doing it all to keep their heads above water. So, I think the first step is to stop comparing ourselves to this idea of the perfect highlight reel on social media with full staffs behind them. 

I think the second step is acknowledging where and when we need the help. It is okay to ask for it. It is okay to accept it. If there is any real secret to how any of us do it all, it is because we lean on people when we need to. Acknowledge the importance of the lean and be grateful for the people that hold us up. I’ve said it before and I’ll probably say it when I am on my deathbed, I am so thankful for my village. I could not do this life without them. Choose your village well my friends and it will be one of the greatest decisions you get to make in this life. 

Just this week, there have been soccer games and dance competitions and real estate appointments and contracts to write and meetings and a house to prep to get ready for the market and some challenging news and a sick kid that left school early and two half school days and another day off and doctors appointments and all of the practices and dance and work and life in between. And it is only Wednesday. 

I can do it because I know that I have a village as my net. There is an unspoken security in that. I have people who are there. No guilt or hard time or expectations. They just come, dustpan in hand. To the ones who show up, I see you. There aren’t enough words to thank you. My tears speak volumes. Thank you for helping to carry the mountains, the children and the weight of this life. Thank you for also bringing a side of joy and laughter to go along with it. Thank you for being a constant reminder of all that is good. 

To the ones who show up, you make this world better. There aren’t any awards for this role. But maybe helping to raise one another is one of the greatest rewards we can receive. Alone we are enough. Together we are better. We’ve got this.

Katie has a book out that is a collection of quotes and mic drops to embrace your inner warrior. “Girl Power” is available on Amazon and is the perfect gift for all the warriors in your world. You can find out more details and book signing info on her instagram @katieyackleymoore. Endless thanks for reading. Xo

To read more blogs by Katie Moore click here.

MooreFam SKatie Yackley Moore is a freelance writer, real estate agent, yoga instructor and a momma of four navigating life and a separation and finding herself in the process. She adores coffee shops, laughing until it hurts and impromptu dance parties. Her work has appeared on Scary Mommy, Mamalode and HuffPost Parents. She has published a journal entitled “Dream a Bigger Dream” and the children’s books “You Are a Warrior” and “We are Family” and just finished her first novel. Catch up with her between tea breaks at The Naked Momma and on Facebook.



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