Next week I will turn forty. So, I’m trying to lead a lot of what I say with, “As a woman in my thirties,” and impart some impeccable wisdom such as the type of latte I would like to order.
So, this will be my last post here as a woman in my thirties to tell you what I fantasize about as a 39-year old mother that is single. Naturally, I am choosing an important subject to exit my thirties on.
This is What a Mom Who is Single Wants for Christmas:
1. A clone. Kidding, not kidding. If there was a topper of the dream wish list, it would be this.
2. Security. I read before that the first time a woman gets married it is for love and the second time it is for security. False? Maybe. Cynical? Maybe. True? Maybe. The truth is I understand and I would never judge anyone who takes that path. Raising kids on a limited budget is challenging to say the least so if it can be wrapped and put under a tree, I would accept it with open arms.
3. Gift cards. The next best thing.
4. Non-judgment. There will always be more to the story then you will ever know. There will always be more truths that will never surface. She has overcome more than you can see. Please, please show up without judging her story and her choices. She never decided them lightly. She shouldn’t be judged heavily in return.
5. A village. They are pretty much all of the above and even better because they listen to you, they hug you, they adore your kids and they serve you wine.
6. A winning lottery ticket. I know, I know. But, well, that would really come in handy.
7. Four extra hours in the day. Compared to the winning lottery ticket, this seems like an easy request.
8. Kids who no longer fight. At this point should I also ask for a unicorn?
9. Someone handy/tech savvy/likes to clean gutters/likes to fold laundry/into doing dishes/good at painting/good with cars/tells me I’m smart and pretty/makes me laugh/makes a good mojito/owns a really tall ladder to switch out a ceiling fan that I hate. Okay this one might be more on the personal side. Santa, I believe in you. Annnnddd I was really good in 2019. Well, overall. Close enough I think to at least deserve the gift of a human that likes to fold laundry. Or a clone works as a backup plan who will fold clothes begrudgingly.
So that’s it. Such a short, simple list. As a woman in my thirties, I am never going to give up on dreaming.
Katie has a book out that is a collection of quotes and mic drops to embrace your inner warrior. “Girl Power” is available on Amazon and is the perfect gift for all the warriors in your world. You can find out more details and book signing info on her instagram @katieyackleymoore. Endless thanks for reading. Xo
Katie Yackley Moore is a freelance writer, real estate agent, yoga instructor and a momma of four navigating life and a separation and finding herself in the process. She adores coffee shops, laughing until it hurts and impromptu dance parties. Her work has appeared on Scary Mommy, Mamalode and HuffPost Parents. She has published a journal entitled “Dream a Bigger Dream” and the children’s books “You Are a Warrior” and “We are Family” and just finished her first novel. Catch up with her between tea breaks at The Naked Momma and on Facebook.