My 7-year-old has been hitting lately.
Twice last week I heard stories in which he hit another kid.
In the first incident, he got mad at his best friend down the street over how to build a Lego creation and popped him one. I’m not sure exactly when this happened, but the friend’s mom shared the story over coffee Thursday morning. We were talking about how the neighborhood kids have a way of working things out, and her point wasn’t that my kid had hit her kid, but more how she handled the situation — which, by the way, was far more effective than anything I might have done. (Why is it that other parents can have more of an impact on my kids than I do?)
Anyway, even though her point was to explain how the situation worked out, I was still stuck on the fact that my kid had hit her kid.
I hoped it was an isolated incident.
But then on Friday he did it again. He got mad at another neighborhood boy for not taking turns on our trampoline and apparently whaled on the kid.
When I told him later that we simply did not hit other people, he was clear to explain he hadn’t hit the boy. He had punched him.
My little lecture was having a big impact, I could tell.
So Jonah was banned from the trampoline for the rest of the weekend. He took the punishment surprisingly well, but I’m not so sure he’s going to refrain from fisticuffs again the next time he gets mad.
And I’m not sure exactly how to handle it. Any insight on how to restrain kids who hit?
FranklyStein is a blog by Chesapeake Family Magazine editor Betsy Stein who lives in Catonsville with her husband, Chris, and four children, Maggie, 13, Lilly, 11, Adam, 11, and Jonah, 7.
Photo by Dawn Kearney